
Jane Cohen Counseling
Dr. Jane Ilene Cohen, NLP & TimeLine Master Practitioner (619) 203-4412
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Why Don’t Couples Seek the Relationship Help They Need?
When couples aren’t motivated to seek help with their relationship problems, it’s generally because they are in a co-dependent relationship with each other. That means they are leaning on each other to compensate for unconscious, childhood limiting decisions* that leave them feeling not whole. They might, for example, have limiting decisions* that they are unlovable, not worthy of respect, are powerless, are on their own, can’t support themselves, or are not safe. They are leaning on their partner to, for example, make them feel lovable, worthy of respect, powerful, or safe by relating to them in certain expected ways or doing particular kinds of behaviors toward them.
The Meaning of Fake News in Today’s World
It seems we have always known how powerful truth is. Through the ages those in power have often tried to claim ownership of it. We are now in an era in which what is true is being challenged in a way that offers us a major transformational opportunity.
Understanding Narcissism
Narcissism is a very thick emotional defense system that generally works well in getting what you want, but eventually leaves you empty without meaning or content.
It’s important to recognize an emotional defense system is not who a person is. It’s a defense against emotional pain. The defense system of narcissism doesn’t always come out in the same way. It varies from person to person.
The Subjective Nature of Our Perceptions
Regardless of what you filter in or out, and regardless of your subjective interpretations, actual reality exists and has an effect on your survival, stability, and well-being. For that reason, your ability to perceive what is real greatly impacts your ability (or lack of ability) to survive, have stability, and well-being.
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