This year has been challenging and we’re about to step into the New Year, with even more challenges ahead. Fundamental issues are confronting us. What is truth? What are lies? What is real? What is fake? Who has the power? What is power?

A basic challenge we’re facing in these times is how to distinguish truth from lies. “Spin” manipulates logic and can make people give up on discerning what is true. It’s easy to find logic for proving what we are invested in as being true. But doing that is very divisive and doesn’t leave room for everyone to exist. It just leaves room for those who are invested in things being their particular way. Only actual truth leaves room for everyone to exist.

How reality gets defined is fundamental for a person’s well-being and sense of sanity. Those in power often try to redefine it to stay in power, when their power is based on control.

The question is how to defend oneself from being caught up in the distortion of truth. Trump has become a symbol of a powerful, irrational authority having the power to control what reality is. When the preponderance of information supports actual truth, rather than lies, we can feel justified in attacking Goliath as if we’re David fighting the powerful giant.

It’s time to shift the focus to where the problem really is. It is never from a source outside you. It is not Trump or his supporters. It is our own challenge in defining what is real from within our own present moment experience, which we generally give away to outside sources.

We all want to feel we are right. We can easily get into power-struggles in order to prove we are the one who is right. The question is how far will a person go to prove it? What truth will they ignore, twist, or exaggerate? Truth tends to make things more complicated. It doesn’t always prove what is convenient or comfortable for us. If you let truth lead, regardless of what you would rather it be, it tends to cause transformation and change, the opposite of complacency.

Truth is a living force that can’t be controlled. It puts you in the position of being engaged in life, where things never stay the same. Truth requires personal growth and transformation. It means something larger than you, that includes everyone, is in charge and can evolve the world forward.

We are in a time where these two perspectives (truth versus human control) are coming out in stark relief, and giving us a choice of where to invest ourselves. Trump can’t be beat on the same dysfunctional, power-struggle-based ground he is standing on. He is a master at it. There’s no point in trying to beat him anyway. It just locks us into the same dysfunctional ground he’s standing on.

Instead, we have to shift the ground we’re standing on and are invested in. The shift is from feeling in control — to letting go of control and leaning on what is true. Leaning on what is actually true requires understanding that the nature of truth is for us, not against us. It requires courage and a willingness to be transformed.

Rather than leaning on the world outside us to define reality for us, we must learn to come into our own present-moment experience and directly experience what is there. Focusing in on, for example, what is based on love, what is in integrity, what is inspired, what is intelligent, what is life-giving, and what is true give us intrinsic guideposts that uphold the structure of what is real. When we align with them, we are in alignment with what is real and, therefore, we can be supported by what is real. This is how we harness our true power and authority.

When we are in that alignment and relate to others who are also in alignment with these fundamental elements of what is real, we are building a strong structure and can be supported by a larger source that includes us all.

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Author’s Bio: Jane Ilene Cohen, Ph.D. is an Intuitive & Transformational NLP Counselor, and an NLP & TimeLine Master Practitioner and Hypnotherapist, with a private counseling practice in San Diego North County (Encinitas). She also works with out-of-town clients (using Zoom or Skype video).

Dr. Cohen works with adults, children, couples, families and other relationships, and facilitates groups and workshops. She is also the Founder of the “Life is Designed to Work” thought system.

For more about Dr. Cohen’s counseling services, go to: JaneCohenCounseling.com . For a free phone consultation to decide if this is right for you, or to make an appointment, call Dr. Cohen at (760) 753-0733.

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